An Introduction to Becoming Neuroaffirming
At Divergent Life, we believe helping people to understand their neurobiology is a basic human right. Our philosophy is that neurodivergent people, especially those receiving a late diagnosis, have suffered a lifetime of being misunderstood, othered, and labelled, leading to core emotional wounds.
Providing a neuroaffirming approach to support them through their neurodivergent discovery is about treating them as the wonderful, complex human beings they are. Not insisting that they change and adapt, or are somehow less than and need fixing.
What Does it Mean to be Neuroaffirming?
Neuroaffirming is a relatively new term in the lexicon of neurodivergence. While the word neurodiversity has been used since the 1990s, the practice of being neuroaffirming is much more recent.
We are moving away from the medical model of neurodivergence that states that neurodivergence is a disorder of the brain. As more research is conducted across the world, we are coming to realise that the brain in all its complexity is diverse. No two brains think the same, or respond the same way in a given situation.
However, what is apparent is that there is a predominant neurotype that has become the ‘norm’ around which our contemporary lives, cultural practices, and societies have been designed. There is an argument to say that the predominant neurotype, that which is referred to as neurotypical, is simply the neurobiology that most suits a capitalist structure. But that is another discussion for another day.
To be neuroaffirming means to focus on strengths and the rights of the individual, as outlined in this article by Autism Acceptance. The aim is to provide affirming approaches, language and adaptations that allow all neurotypes to thrive. The language of deficits, disorders and developmental delays is disputed, replaced instead with the language of differences and strengths. With the very real challenges that neurodivergent people experience attributed to lack of social and structural design that supports neurotypes that fall outside of the narrow window of neurotypical.
What is Neurodivergence versus Neurodiversity?
Neurodiversity or neurodiverse simply refers to all the varying neurotypes. As stated previously, every brain is different. There is a huge propensity for variation. And that is what makes a species successful. It is, after all, the basis upon which natural selection works. Over time, we have evolved this complexity into our species and our species’ survival has depended upon it.
Neurodivergence or being neurodivergent on the other hand, refers to a group of individuals whose neurotype falls outside of what is currently deemed to be typical for the human population.
Therefore, it is correct to say that a person is neurodivergent. But not that an autistic person for example is neurodiverse. We are all neurodiverse, because diversity makes up the human population. It is inherent in our genetic code, biology, neurotypes, and evolutionary history.
What are the Strengths and Challenges that Neurodivergent People Experience?
This is a huge question, and one that we will continue to explore on Brainz, because it is in fact too large a question for a subsection of a single article. However, we can explore this a little here.
Firstly, and most importantly, strengths. Looking at neurodivergence from a strengths-based perspective is fundamental to being neuroaffirming. This isn’t to discount the struggles that neurodivergent people experience, but rather that we believe that to support neurodivergent people to become the very best version of themselves, we need to start with strengths. And eliminate the language of deficits.
Neurodivergent people have largely spent most of their lives feeling like they don’t fit in, are othered, and alienated by society. School can be incredibly challenging for some, where navigating the complex nuances of social interactions can leave many children confused and isolated. Or they are high masking high performers who appear to sail through school, but at huge cost to their mental health and sense of self.
Equally, as we move on through life, our struggles are either dismissed as ‘being in our heads’, or we are shamed for being different. We may expend all of our energy surviving the working week, with no time for social interaction at the weekends. We may have a public meltdown, and rather than be supported to recover with dignity, we end up being ridiculed, shamed, or medicated.
So this is why we prefer to look at neurodivergence through a strengths-based lens first. Providing a safe and nurturing environment to build confidence, reset the nervous system, and then develop strategies to cope with the external world.
So, strengths then. We are taking a look at ADHD, autism, and giftedness here today...
ADHD Strengths
High Energy: ADHDers often have a great deal of energy, which can be channelled into positive outlets such as sports, dance, and other physical activities.
Out-of-the-box thinking: ADHDers often think outside the box and have a unique perspective on the world, which can lead to innovative ideas and solutions. They may make unique connections between ideas, and approach problems in unconventional ways.
Enthusiasm: ADHDers often approach new experiences and challenges with enthusiasm and a sense of adventure.
Sense of Humour: Many ADHDers possess a great sense of humour and quick wit, often making others laugh and easing tension in social situations.
Resilience: ADHD individuals face challenges in daily life, which builds resilience and determination. They learn to persist in the face of adversity, bounce back from setbacks, and develop a strong sense of perseverance.
Autism Strengths
Exceptional Focus: Autistic individuals often exhibit intense focus and concentration on tasks that interest them. This can lead to a deep level of engagement and proficiency in specific areas of interest.
Keen Attention to Detail: Autistic individuals often have a remarkable ability to notice and pay attention to small details that others may overlook. This can be advantageous in activities that require precision or careful observation. This is an advantage in fields such as science, engineering and mathematics, where precision and accuracy are crucial.
Excellent Memory Skills: Many autistic individuals possess excellent memory skills, allowing them to retain and recall information with great accuracy. This can be helpful in learning and acquiring new knowledge.
Unique Perspective: Autistic individuals often have a unique way of perceiving and understanding the world. They may think in unconventional ways, which can lead to original insights and creativity. Their unique perspective enables them to find alternative solutions to problems. They perceive reality in a unique way and will often find a different solution than another person would.
Dedication to Routine and Structure: Many autistic individuals thrive in structured environments and find comfort in predictable routines. This can contribute to their ability to follow instructions, complete tasks, and develop a sense of security and stability.
Giftedness Strengths
Emotional Intensity: People with emotional giftedness often feel things more intensely, which can lead to a strong sense of empathy and a desire to help others.
Intuition and Sensitivity: Many individuals with sensual giftedness possess heightened intuition and sensitivity to their surroundings. They may pick up on subtle cues, emotions, and nonverbal communication, making them empathetic and perceptive individuals.
Strong Imagination: People with intellectual giftedness often have a vivid imagination, which can lead to a love of storytelling, art, and other creative endeavours.
You can read more about giftedness on InterGifted. Divergent Life leader, Dr Emma Offord is a giftedness profiler.
Neurodiversity is like looking into the stars - every pinpoint of light is a unique moment in the history of our universe.
Neurodivergent Challenges
Contrary to popular belief, not all autistic brains experience sensory overload in all situations. And not all ADHDers can’t sit still. These are stereotypes that have developed because there is still so much to learn and understand about neurodivergent brains and their environmental and social preferences. That being said, neurodivergent people can experience sensory overwhelm. And ADHD does include hyperactivity which can manifest physically. Just not always.
Challenges a neurodivergent person may experience include but are not limited to:
Difficulty switching tasks or having their plans changed without notice
Difficulty remembering more than one instruction or question being asked at a time
Reading between the lines so prefer explicit and accurate communication, rather than implied meaning
May need extra breaks to prevent becoming overwhelmed
Can get bored easily especially if they get a lot of work done in less time than a neurotypical brain, this can lead to a kind of burnout called bore-out
May need flexible deadlines or shorter deadlines
Being stuck in traffic can be highly stressful for neurodivergent people if they are forced to sit still for long periods of time, which can be deeply physically uncomfortable
Can find lots of noise distracting
Can also find an environment that is too quiet makes their thoughts too loud which can be more distracting
Temperature regulation for ND people, especially those going through perimenopause or menopause, can be problematic
Bright lighting can be overstimulating and trigger headaches and sight related issues that make ND people very tired
Flexibility regarding clothing choice, some ND people will choose to wear clothing that is comfortable and practical, rather than fashionable
Many ND people thrive with spontaneity, but others don’t and find making on the spot decisions very challenging
What You Can Do Now
Becoming neuroaffirming is the first tool in becoming an advocate for your neurodivergent friends, colleagues, and family members. With at least 20% of the population diverging from the predominant neurotype, you will know someone who is silently struggling with feeling different and misunderstood. And they may not even know why.
By being neuroaffirming, you are showing that person that you care about them and value them as an individual. You are not lumping them into a homogeneous group to be othered. You are seeing them as valued members of society with unique gifts and perspectives to share with the world.
If you want to become neuroaffirming, suspect you are or have a neurodivergent diagnosis, or know someone who does, then request a copy of our Becoming Neuroaffirming Booklet for more information.
We provide diagnostic assessments, therapy, coaching, and group programmes, specialising in the experiences of neurodivergent women and men, and supporting children and families, too. We use a neuroaffirming, trauma informed approach, getting curious with our clients about their vulnerabilities, challenges, and strengths.
We work with you to understand your diagnosis and self-identification through a trauma lens. This helps you reduce the impact of neurodivergent trauma, becoming confident and knowledgeable about your own neurobiology.
Divergent Life has a small team of specialists who work alongside Dr Offord to provide a range of therapeutic and coaching services. You can find out more on our services page.
